Gentlemen, these streets are mean. If you don’t bring your A-game, you’re almost certain to get curved. You might be lucky at the beginning if you have good looks, but those can only get you so far. Women all over the world are complex creatures; Nigerian women are no different, and a lot of the ones you find on social media are quite feisty. I mean, they literally have no chill at all. So what’s a brother got to do to catch a break? Let’s see if I can point you in the right direction; what you do afterwards is entirely up to you.
Do Your Homework
So you’ve spotted the girl’s picture somewhere or you’ve even seen her in real life, and you’re interested. What next? My brother observe carefully before you jump in. Do your homework first. First of all be sure that she is even available, then be sure that she’s even your type. It’s one thing for a girl to be pretty, it’s another thing for her to be educated and well put together upstairs.
Be Honest
It’s easy to get carried away on social media, a lot of people on there are living false lives and all so that they can come and share it for likes. Don’t be like that, don’t be stupid. Be your own person, not everyone will like you, but those that do will respect you for it.
Display Maturity
This is a no-brainer really. If you’re childish, these streets are not for you. Don’t be a fuckboy.
Weapons of Warfare
Choose your weapons carefully when sliding into the DMs. Humor works for most women, but not everyone can relate to your kind of humor. Intelligence is good as well, but don’t overdo it. They start to view you somehow when you start acting like an ITK. You’re a friend not a lecturer.
Don’t bring out your whole arsenal when you start talking or you might burn out too early. Talk a lot about things you both have in common and make some sense. Let her genuinely enjoy your company. Don’t make it all about trying to get her into bed, she will see you coming from afar. If you have certain (*coughs*) talents, there’s no need to brag, at the appropriate time you can conduct your orchestra.
Put Some Respeck On It
Again another no brainer. It’s easy to think you can invite her over once you’ve transitioned from DMs to her phone number and the conversations are now lit. Heck she may even suggest it. Please don’t fall for it, it’s a trap! First dates are best on neutral ground.
Take things slowly, don’t rush. If she’s into you, you’ll get what you want eventually. If she’s not, then move on. No hard feelings; nothing is by force.
Dodge the Drama
Social media in Nigeria has its fair share of drama these days; arguments, leaks, fights and let’s not forget the subs. The more you’re able to avoid and ignore getting dragged into these things, the better for you. Smart women are observant; they know that they could be the next ones to get dragged into your drama.
Dealing with Feminists
Understand the real issues, respect them and avoid debates around cooking and cleaning. This will save you a lot of headache in the long run.
Don’t Join Pick Me Up Twitter
There are some folks (handles withheld), who spend a lot of time tweeting stuff that women can relate to. They act as if they are so caring and so compassionate that they would be every woman’s dream. Mr man, better don’t kill yourself. One size does not fit all. They are not all the same. If you build a relationship on a lie, eventually the truth will come out.
Bottomline, be a gentleman, be respectful and avoid unnecessary drama.
